It's a choice

I have decided not to allow anyone else to rain on my parade anymore. I am a planner and those who are not will just have to tag along. I realize that sometimes spontaenous is good and I am up for that. However, just because someone else fails to plan doesn't mean I (or my family) is a resucer or will change/delay our plans.

That being said my sister was to be seen off today at about 10:00. We were going to all meet at Cracker Barrel (because they could park their huge truck/car trailer combo) there and say goodbyes (go to hells?). Anyway, at 9:00 they had overslept which is still okay because my family has been known to do this especially after a long night of packing/moving. Then they broken some piece of plumbing this morning and have to wait for maint. to come see damage before they leave. If your truck was packed last night, how did you break something under the sink this morning??

So she said forget Cracker Barrel, which is good how long can I really wait. She wants me to meet her at the U-Haul store and we can say good-bye as they load their car. Can I just drive by and wave. Seriously, I do want to see her daughter and I know one day I will regret my attitude towards her now. I just get tired of her half-truths and cannot trust what she says.

What to name this?

Well this is a vent blog for sure. Maybe I should just buy a diary instead. My sister lost her help for loading her moving truck and called my hubby and dad in at the last minute. They were gone the remainder of the day helping them and I was alone again. I really don't know how I could have handled it differently, but I ended up being the one in trouble because the hubby is not speaking to me. I wasn't cleat on what he wanted to me to do and then he got upset with me and the situation. I then disagree with his manner of this and I am the one in trouble. He knows that I can't stand it when he will not speak to me. I feel like a child being punished by a parent. He would say, well right now you don't want to hear what I would like to say. I guess that is so. We can't even agree on a way to argue. Well the kids are all in bed so I better make tracks while I can. You never know how long you have.

What excitment today

Well my boys are off to meet up with other family to see the newest indy movie. Since the baby can't go I am left behind. So much for a day just together. I know my son really wants to see the movie and I wouldn't hold him back, but I wish I would have been considered. I know that my hubby has missed some of my son's TKD practices to stay home with the baby. BUT I have taken her along with us twice so it can be done. I think a movie would be harder because she would most likely cry and I couldn't see a darn thing in the dark. They are going to the discount theater so I imagine everything as sticky also. Boy this sure it a great place to vent. Enough pity party. In the long run of things, today is just a dot on the map of life. It just would have been nice for someone to say "Sorry you aren't going. We will miss you."

We do have some kind of dinner plans with my sister's family hanging in the air. Today is the day they load up the moving van. They pull out tomorrow morning. Depending on how things go we hope to see them tonight for our goodbyes. That should top the day off. I am glad her husband found this job and that PA is not as far as it could be BUT why move so much. I honestly cannot remember how many times they have moved. Sometimes just the same city, but not always. It's for various reasons: bad landlord, bad neighbors, bad school, too far away, etc. etc. Even though she has lived 45 mins. away for just over a year, we hardly get together. I have never been invited to her house for dinner. We talk on the phone alot, but I guess we really must not be the best of friends or we would make time for each other. I think it's because we are opposites. I know my mom with miss them and her granddaughter for sure BUT I think secretly it will make it easier to plan family events without having to consider the one group that is different.

Today I have accomplished some cleaning. Lots of laundry, kitchen, even the toliets are white again.

I noticed I haven't had any random readers yet. Should I tell others about my blog? Then I couldn't vent about them if needed. I doubt the people I would want to tell would ever need venting. For instance my hubby, I could just tell him it need be!

Quick, Hurry

So I really should be getting ready for church instead of wasting time typing this, but I am drawn in. Yesterday turned out to be really nice. We ended up with some good family time. All of us went to the farmers market nearby and loaded up. Plus, we got ice cream. My son even branched out to something other than vanilla. What can I say, I am always the same. My hubby grilled steaks and had only a minor grill fire on my grilled corn. I don't know how that happened, it works fine when I use it. hehe. All jabs aside he made a wonderful dinner. Even though the baby kept me up late I did end up sleeping 7 hours last night. My hubby got the middle of the night feeding this time. For some reason she always stays up longer with him. He was up 2 hours with multiple diapers and even the rare spit up and clothes change. I usually average 45 mins. Why do kids react different to different people? Gotta run if I am not going to be late.

Shouldn't Saturday be more fun?

So normally if I was working Saturday morning would be welcomed differently. I would enjoy staying in my pjs longer (I do this almost all day now) and hanging out with my family. As I mentioned in my first post my son had a sleepover so he is gone this morning. My hubby arranged a golf game for early with an old friend that he never gets to see much. So it's just the girls this morning. I am glad he gets to do something he wants, he deserves it BUT, he is one of those people that always does and never just hangs out with me. I can't really complain, I shouldn't. He took his early afternoon off and went to the Evil empire grocery shopping with me. We had a great time, I'm glad my baby can't remember all the things we say. We both were on a roll with the jabs.

Today I have lunch plans with my sister's family (my hubby will miss this). We have no place or time arranged which bothers the planner in me to no end. They are moving to PA for his new job on Tuesday. They have one daughter who is 8. My son still doesn't understand that they are really leaving for a long time. He was just starting to get closer to her really. It was hard for him because she is a girl, but also because she is deaf and he doesn't really understand how to communicate with her. He loves his Aunt K, she has babysat him several times when school is out. One thing that bothers me is that she always goes overboard. She can't just have him over, she has to take him somewhere big and do something all day long. Why can't they just be? Anyway. they have only lived nearby (45 mins) for about one year. Before that they lived in TX for 7 years. We saw them maybe one time per year. None of us has the money to travel by plane for the whole family and driving that with kids is out of the question for me. Hopefully PA can be a car trip. I would love to see Amish country. I haven't been there since I was a kid.

I am sure I will touch on the move and the crazy happenings of the last lunch again, but for now the baby is asleep and this is my only chance for a long and quiet shower!

Day number one

Wow! Day number one of my new blog! I have always read my sister-in-law's blog to keep up with her family. I thought it was a great idea, but shyed away from creating my own because I didn't know how interesting or funny I could make it. Hers always gives me a laugh. So if you are expecting something wonderfully insightful, you are in the wrong place for sure.

I am currently home on maternity leave for about 3 more weeks with the newest addition to our family. I have a son who is 6 and a daughter who is 5 weeks.

I have always dreamed of being a stay at home mom and this is a wonderful time for me to pretend that I don't have to go back to work. I don't have a choice in this matter because our bills demand it. It's one of those situations where your mistakes in the beginning of your marriage follow you and demand attention for the rest of your life. Anyway, we don't make enough for me to quit my job and daycare chews up just enough of our money to make life too tight. So for now I am pretending and my husband is enjoying the fact that I am home cooking dinner every night. At least I think he is. I am sure he would love it if I would stop trying new recipes from Food Network. I don't think he liked the Tur-Chicken burgers I made from Rachel Ray, but he was nice and said he did. The give away was that he didn't want any leftovers for his lunch. Instead he ate at the K&W. just gross! My burgers were way better than that!

Anyway, today I watched the movie P.S. I Love You. So sappy. Definitely not something to watch at home alone. It made me want my hubby to come home early. And guess what, he called and he is finishing up early today. Too bad we will probaly spend the afternoon at the grocery store and then take my son to his Tae Kwon Do (TKD) class. My son does have a sleep over tonight though, maybe. maybe not!

So I have lots of ideas to fill you all in on. My sister who is moving to PA and the cute things my baby is learning, like playing with toys for the first time today thanks to her aunt (who is the great blogger). Stay tuned also for results on my son's upcoming TKD class also.